Hi! I'm Terrence
I am the content creator behind Millennials Path, a self-discovery blog dedicated to the following three topics: depression, lifestyle, and finance. These are all things that I have struggled with during my lifetime, and I am excited to share all my personal experiences with you.
Being a FCBC (French Canadian Born Chinese) living in Montreal, Quebec, Canada and growing up with so many identities, I was confused, lost, and neglected. I had a difficult time finding who I was as a person, what my interests were, and friends. As a child, I was deserted by my parents, and in my adolescence, I was bullied by my peers. Once I reached adulthood, I was disoriented by career choices I had to make. After many struggles, I realized I had to take responsibility for my own happiness and stop playing the victim role. I want to help you find your own path, a life that is worth living and waking up to every single day even if it is not following conventional wisdom.
When my previous girlfriend's mother died in September 2016, it was the most devastating moment in my life. Just before her death, she was angrily spewing regrets regarding her whole life and I was shocked by this. At that moment, I made a promise to myself that I was going to live my life to the fullest without any regrets, instead of being scared all the time and not taking risks. I believe that I took the death of my previous girlfriend's mother harder than anyone, even more than her own daughter. The reason is because she was more of a mother to me than my own actual mother. Being Asian, I had the Asian “tiger mom,” a mother who would not validate my emotions, choices, and decisions in life if they did not fit her ideals. Thus, I had many 'mommy' issues without even knowing. Following the death of my previous girlfriend's mother, my relationship with her daughter did not last much longer as I discovered that I loved her mother more than her, and this was just the beginning of my life spiraling down.
Having low self-esteem I followed my parents guidance in completing my studies and getting a job. I have a Bachelors in Bio-organic Chemistry and a Masters of Business Administration. I quit my comfortable, easy, public sector full-time job in July 2017, and I have never looked back. Family, significant others, and friends told me I was stupid, immature, and naive."You are flushing your degrees down the toilet." But how can they judge my life and make decisions for me when they do not even know who I am? For God's sake, I DID NOT KNOW WHO I WAS! All they were doing was following the norm to avoid shame and I did not want to live my life that way.
After attending Eckhart Tolle's spiritual retreat in Norway, I decided to pursue my lifelong dream and opened my own dance studio business in October 2017. I felt that I was on top of the world. Unfortunately, that dream was just a healing fantasy. By achieving my dream, I thought that all my problems would go away, for example, money, status, self-esteem, confidence, negative social circle etc. None of my problems went away, and the stress from starting a business brought me even more issues. My business was very short-lived as I realized I was doing it for the wrong reasons, but I learned many life lessons along the way.
I fell to the lowest point of my life in December 2017 due to my failed venture, inner complexes, and negative social circle. I was immobilized, and I could not get out of bed. It was the first time in my life that I had ever experienced something like this, and I was on the verge of committing suicide. Slowly and painfully, I came to realize what my problems were throughout my life by reading psychotherapy books. I started to recover from depression in May 2018 after journaling for approximately six months, and I finally took a stand in my life at the end of June 2018, which revolutionized the way I live today. By July 2018, I recovered from depression and discovered myself and started this blog, Millennials Path.
During my depression in January 2018, I observed an opportunity in the stock market that I just had to join. I put my whole life savings in it as I was depressed and money did not matter to me at the time since I was going to commit suicide anyways. Two months later, the stock that I bought appreciated, and I profited from it. I was less depressed and sad after profiting from the stock market, but I lost 50% of it when I started to test trading strategies. My depression then returned to the lowest point from the loss that I took. However, I did not stop educating myself to learn about the stock market, which gave me an activity to do during this depressive time. I continued to push through both my struggles and challenges, and with time, I started to yield consistent profits on my trades. I have been trading in the stock market since 2010, but I was never consistent. By finding myself through depression, I was able to come up with a profitable trading strategy that fit my personality and patience.
I am now so grateful for everything that has occurred, as I have developed confidence and self-esteem that I previously did not have. If it had not come to this point, Millennials Path would not exist today. Join me on the Millennials Path by introducing yourself here in the forum.
LAST UPDATED: October 28, 2018